Note: From this point on, you may encounter some spoilers, so if you haven’t watched the second season of this series yet (how have you not?), I suggest you come back here after watching, alright?
Despite a subtle approach, we notice that the relationship between Darcy and her mother is very fragile, which goes completely against the persona she has with her friends. Although Darcy is the most outgoing in the group, confident in herself and her sexuality, the moment she receives more affection or the topic of “mother” comes up, she simply freaks out, avoids conversations, and tries to ignore her feelings. All this emotional avoidance ends up harming her internal and external connections, and even though the group of friends is a safe haven, this is an issue that doesn’t get resolved overnight, especially with parents who have this narcissistic profile.
I really hope that this storyline will be further explored in the next season, but until it’s released, how about we talk a little about the subject?
The Depth of Paternal Narcissism: Understanding its Roots and Characteristics
Narcissistic personality disorder drives a perception of superiority and the pursuit of special treatment. Research suggests that this behavior is a defense against feelings of inadequacy and shame.
Narcissistic parents tend to view their children as objects meant to fulfill their needs, shaping and manipulating them to meet only their expectations.
In these relationships, we can observe characteristics such as:
- High expectations;
- Disregard for the child’s autonomy, independence, and individuality;
- Overprotection;
- Emotional abuse, such as manipulation and blackmail;
- Stubbornness;
- Extreme jealousy and victimization;
- Selfish and empathy-lacking love;
- Seeing themselves as holders of the truth.
Consequences of Relationships with Narcissistic Parents
Victims of narcissistic parents face significant emotional challenges, exhibiting emotional emptiness, low self-esteem, and anxiety. Moreover, if left untreated, these patterns can be passed down to the next generations.
And despite their attempts to project a persona unaffected by these issues, sooner or later the reflections of the abusive relationship surface and affect others.
Dealing with the Complexity of Narcissistic Parents
It’s important to recognize that the first step in everything in life is to identify if something is causing us harm. Clearly, dealing with narcissistic individuals isn’t easy, and trying to face all of this on your own is not a viable long-term option. Therefore, the best course of action is to seek professional help, which will provide you with mechanisms and tools to break free from these negative inherited patterns.
Additionally, talking to trusted friends, consuming movies, series, books, videos, and podcasts that address this subject can be beneficial in helping you gain a new perspective.